Help, Hope, Healing, Hilarious, Hell & Him
I needed help, I found hope, I have been healing, I am still hilarious, I have been through Hell, either because of Him or in-spite of Him. I spent 33 years of my 51 years of life with Him. Him being my husband, my high school sweetheart, my best friend, my everything and my forever and always. At least Him used to be all those things. Him was my abuser and the reason 1 year ago I started Tiffany’s 128 Initiative on what would have been our 28th year anniversary.
Happy 1 Year Birthday/Anniversary Tiffany’s 128 Initiative 9.27.2025
This year has been an absolute rollercoaster of events, emotions and changes– trying to decide what is the most important to pick through and share with you within the span of about 10 minutes is impossible. So, I am going to focus on the domestic/family and gun violence I was a victim of but now a survivor of – I am Tiffany Elizabeth Tipton founder of Tiffany’s 128 Initiative – Justice, Advocacy and Guidance for those out there who are or were in abusive relationships.
HELP – I needed help. I got help in many ways. My friends, my faith, doctors, therapists, domestic violence shelter, law enforcement, victims advocate, group therapy, books, videos, my attorney, my cat, strangers, former students, neighbors, the courts, and most of all my new family by love and not by blood. I spent hours on the internet and so did my new family looking for information and resources for victims and survivors of domestic violence. One goal of Tiffany’s 128 Initiative is to provide a website that has what a person needs to escape, find justice, recovery from the aftermath of abuse and inspiration. You are not alone, and you can find help.
HOPE – I needed hope. Finding hope was the most difficult and at times seemed impossible. I can’t tell you where exactly I found it and how to go about feeling hope. I can tell you when I truly felt hope. It was May of this year, right about a year and half after “that day.” After “that day” in October of 2023 I became a gun and domestic/family violence survivor, and my life was put on display I never imagined knowing hope again. I began to feel hope when my divorce was final in April of 2025 and then my ex-husband was indicted by a jury and arraigned. I finally see a future that is full of hope and not just one of existence. You are not alone, and you can find hope.
Healing – I needed healing. Not only did my body need to heal physically but my mind was clouded with the words and actions of Him. I could only see myself through the eyes of Him. My memories were stained with the actions of Him. My heart only held love for him and had since I was 16 years old. There was no part of my mind that was not infected with Him. I am not about to tell you that I am healed. I am at the very beginning of my healing journey and for the rest of my time here on Earth I will be healing from what was done and said to me by Him and those who protected his secrets & the abuse. I started Tiffany’s 128 Initiative as part of my process to heal. I lived to tell my truth, to tell my story and in hope of helping others. You are not alone, and you can begin to heal.
HILARIOUS – I needed to be hilarious. Most of my life I have been called funny, the girl with a great personality and fun to be around. I loved that part of me and it is engrained me. I used humor when I taught, humor to break tension, and humor to be bring comfort to people during trying times. And I was hilarious until I wasn’t. I lost that part of me for a while because of Him. How can one find joy when you can’t find peace, love, loyalty, safety, or trust in your own home. When I found myself in a place of peace, when I found unconditional love, when I was surrounded by loyalty, when I felt safe and when I could trust my own thoughts and trust those around me, I began hilarious again. I choose to laugh instead of crying. Not to say that I do not cry on a consistent basis for everything I lost “that day.” I mourn for a life I wanted and thought I would have, and I laminate for my family and for the families destroyed and the families that continue to be destroyed by Him. But more than crying, I laugh. I am not exaggerating when I tell you that daily someone is telling me I am funny (or texting me laughing emojis). And when I tell you I find myself and other things around me hilarious, that straight facts. You are not alone, and you find things hilarious.
Hell & Him. I needed to get the Hell out. I need to escape the Hell he brought upon me. I needed to survive the Hell; he put me through. I wanted to know what Hell is going on; I needed to recover from the Hell he caused. I needed to understand what the Hell happened. I wanted him to go to Hell. I wanted Him to know the Hell I felt. I want justice for the Hell he created. I want people to see what a Hell of a liar he was and continues to be. I wanted people to know come Hell or high water that my truth will be told. I have truly lived through, survived and I am beginning to thrive from the Hell I lived. Through all that Hell and the Hell that I have yet to go through because of Him, I realized that I do not want to leave this Earth with unforgiveness in my heart and I have forgiven him and those who keep his secrets, and those who tried to cover up the abuse. Another reason I started Tiffany’s 128 Initiative is for those who have been through Hell or are going through Hell – well they can find justice, advocacy and guidance as a victim or survivor of domestic/family and gun violence. You are not alone, and you can escape and survive Hell.
Next month Oct 2025 will be two years since I escaped Hell and Him. There is hope, there is help, you can heal, you can be hilarious and find things hilarious, and you are not alone. I have created a platform where survivors’ truth can land and will be heard. I created Tiffany’s 128 Initiative to bring awareness; help stop and end domestic/family and gun violence in as many homes and relationships as possible. If we can save one individual, then that can is generation change. Every1 know some1. Stay Informed, Stay Alert, Stay Safe and Stay Rooted In Love, Tiffany’s 128 Initiative
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